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Episode 1

Draped in Red Flags

We women tend to fall into female friendships with a skip and a sparkle. Hooray! A new friend! But what happens months (or years) later when you find yourself enmeshed in a crappy friendship with someone you never would’ve connected with if you’d known her better? Episode 1 talks about seeing the red flags in a friendship before it’s a huge mess…or making excuses for them and finding yourself in a bog of negativity. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 2

You Are Not Immune

Sure, she’s got her flaws…but you’re immune because of your super-special friendship and sister-like bond. Or not. Do you have a friend who's just mean? She says mean yet hilarious things and seems to get her jollies talking trash? Think because you're besties this behavior doesn't apply to you? It's just a matter of time. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 3

Green-eyed Monster

Comparison is the thief of joy, said Teddy Roosevelt, and the man knew a thing or two. What’s the difference between wanting some of the same things your friends have and true envy? Have you ever been resentful of a friend’s success on any level…or have you ever been surprised when a friend isn’t so happy for you when good things happen? Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 4

Playing the

Victim Card

Some women are survivors…and some are in a perpetual state of suffering. No matter what, their problems are worse than yours, the universe is out to get them, and your job is to listen…not that you can make a difference. Special guest: Dr. Khaleesi (not her real name), Ph.D., (yes, her real credentials) helps deal with this not-a-bad-person-but-endlessly-draining friend. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 5

Hungry Heart

Did you ever have a friend who needed so much from you? At first, things seemed great. Magical, almost. Then, cruel reality sets in, and you see that your friend is a black hole, never satisfied, always hurt that you’re not there enough for her. How to spot the warnings signs, and how to avoid the love at first sight syndrome. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 6

Bad Habits,

Good Friends

After a glass or two of California’s finest, Joss and Kristan discuss fictional female friendship (and the dearth thereof). Which TV character would they most want as their Chardonnay gal-pal, which movies and shows get it right, and how both authors work to create strong female friendships in their books. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 7

The Chardonnay Edition

After a glass or two of California’s finest, Joss and Kristan discuss fictional female friendship (and the dearth thereof). Which TV character would they most want as their Chardonnay gal-pal, which movies and shows get it right, and how both authors work to create strong female friendships in their books. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 8


Dealing with people who are friends only to benefit their own careers and/or self-esteem, how to interact when you can't get out of it and ways to protect yourself. Plus, Joss overshares on the first installation of Embarrassing Personal Problems! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 9


It takes more than the occasional text and Instagram like to sustain a meaningful, rich friendship. When should you sit back and listen, when should you voice your concerns, how to celebrate success and mostly, the importance of showing up. Also, Kristan overshares her most embarrassing problem ever (we hope). Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 10


You've been there for her 100%, listening to her crisis, offering your shoulder to soak up her tears, taking her phone calls…and then, boom! She slams the door in your face. What did you do wrong?

Nothing. It's not about you, honey. It's about her and her issues. Listen to our special guest, Yara of the Marble Islands (you should see her kitchen countertops) as we dissect what happens when you know too much. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 11

just not

that into you

What to do with that friend who's perfectly…meh. There's nothing horribly wrong, but is there anything great? What if the feeling isn't mutual, and you find yourself billed as her bestie when you just don't feel the same way? The Ladies offer their help…plus more embarrassing personal problems!.

 Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 12

breaking up

is hard to do

So it's come to this: you really want to end the friendship. Why is it so hard? How can you be kind but also free yourself of a "friend" who brings nothing good to your life? The Ladies will talk about various ways to free up that space so you can fill it with good people. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 13


Oh, the pitfalls of gossip! It's so delicious, sometimes necessary and a way of bonding…but it can go south fast. See what The Ladies have to say on the subject, and how they've been burned themselves. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 14


What's better than a group of close friends? Nothing! Except when things don't go so well, or the girls are mean, or you have to ask someone to leave the gang. How to make sure your band of sisters doesn't turn into a blood bath of horror, plus drinkies, Kristan singing against everyone's will and Joss's tiara. Special guests Yara of the Marble Islands & Countertops, Dr. Khaleesi, Ph.D. (fake name, real creds) and author Anne Renwick. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 15

wanting what

she has

You love your friend. You're glad for her successes. It's just that you want them, too! Why does she get everything when you don't? It's not fair! The Ladies discuss how to deal with these perfectly normal thoughts. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 16

Wedding Woes & Bridezilla Bitches

These are times that try the soul. Why can't everyone just elope? And yet, the Ladies love a good wedding. Tips on dealing with brides who turn to the Dark Side when planning their weddings, saving your own sanity, and not breaking the bank. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 17

The attention whore

Dude, we all have one. What is it about those friends who bring every conversation back to themselves? Why do we put up with it? Can you fix them? Should you try? Maybe they're not bad people, but talking to them can be such a drain. How to deal…or not. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 18

Coming clean

Has life hit you over the head with a baseball bat? Does everyone seem to have a better life than you? Girl, it happens. Rather than eat your emotions or make voodoo dolls of your friends, the Ladies have some suggestions on how to engage your besties without guilt and take baby steps to feeling better. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 19

best friends

with the face in the mirror

What if we were as good and kind to ourselves as we are to our very best friend? The Ladies discuss self care, the big and the small, the difference between that and self numbing, and how practice makes perfect when it comes to making a better life for yourself. A must-listen after any rough week! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 20



Your best friend--YOUR BEST FRIEND--doesn't just dump you...she paints you as the villain and cuts you out of your friend group. Just when you thought life was going to get better, you've been gutted. How do you start over when all you want is to back to the way things were? The Ladies offer advice, sympathy…and of course, an embarrassing personal problem involving Kristan's nostrils, just for you, our dear listeners.Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 21

Baby and the bathwater

Your pal isn't perfect (and neither are you). How do you manage a friend who's great some of the time, and kinda sorta crappy at others? Is there a way to keep the good and ditch the bad? The Ladies discuss, and Joss overshares about a recent massage parlor visit. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 22


You marry the person of your dreams…and get the sister-in-law of your nightmares. But you used to be friends! And now she hates you. How do you maintain your sanity, establish boundaries and stay out of jail? The Ladies are thrilled to take on the first in our holiday special series: Crappy Relatives. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 23

Second Best with the Relatives, Rapid Fire Edition

In keeping with the approach of the holidays, the Ladies are taking on crappy relatives with the help of psychologist Dr. Khaleesi (not her real name, but yes, her real job). Why is that we so often feel second best when with our families? Can we lob a piece of dry, tasteless turkey at them, or do we have to suck it up? Is wine the only answer? Tune in and find out! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 24

shallow biotch

She only wants to talk about celebrity gossip and reality TV (no judgment!)…but you and your group are moving forward, while she's stuck on the couch at her parents' house. Do you ditch her or give her a chance to try a little harder? The Ladies are joined by their first millennial guest, Princess Jon Snow, for added insight. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 25

is my sister a serial killer?

Could be! The Ladies and special guest Princess Jon Snow continue the Crappy Relatives letters. Maybe that sis isn't quite so evil… just a jealous, controlling, self-centered wretch. Plus, Joss's hints on body disposal! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 26

Dumped without Ceremony

You were the best friend she ever had…right until she dumped your ass. Why didn't she talk about it? Did you do something? What the hell, right? Can you get closure? Should you try? The Ladies offer sympathy and tips, and Kristan discusses why she can no longer wear jumpsuits in Embarrassing Personal Problems. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 27

job vs. friends

You land your dream job…and your friends, all in the same field, take umbrage with your famous boss (who may or may not be Tim Gunn). You're moving ahead and quite possibly opening doors for them; they're not having it. Plus, Kristan's phallic plants and Joss's horror of same. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 28

My Friend the Hero

You love this friend and she has so many great qualities…except she's a conversation hog, and the subject of her stories is always…her greatness. Is it possible to ask her to take it down a notch without destroying your friendship? Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 29

Crappy Relatives Part 2

'Tis the season to be annoyed with your relatives! From a gassy great-uncle to the parents who can't stop overpraising your loser brother and the relative you've been taught to endure, we've got a lot to discuss! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 30

how to vet a friend

The Ladies have said it again and again: vetting a person before jumping into a friendship is NECESSARY, dude. But what does that mean? Using Kristan's anal-retentive checklist, the Ladies give you things to look for, things to do, and things to think about.

Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 31

FOMO (fear of missing out)

Are your friends hanging out without you? Sometimes, absolutely. The Ladies discuss how to overcome FOMO, loving solitude, and the joys of NOT being there all the time. Plus, a listener shares her epic #EmbarassingPersonalProblem.

Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 32

Crappy Relatives, Mother-in-Law Edition

She raised the one you love…and yet she might be the end of your relationship and the start of your prison sentence. The Ladies discuss boundaries, passive-aggressiveness, holidays and the whole messy schmere. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 33

the old wound

"It's the old wound, my king. It has never healed." Yes, yes, Kristan needs to stop watching Excalibur, it's true, but those old wounds can really suck, as Lancelot knows. And why? WHY? You were a good friend, and then she dumped you. Now you might run into her, and the thought makes quake in terror at the anticipated conversation. The Ladies offer advice, and Kristan talks about Econo-Shaving in #EmbarrassingPersonalProblems. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 34

B-List Friends

Sometimes, you really like someone, but she's keeping you in the B-list friend zone. How to pick up on cues, address vague answers and see if maybe there's nothing wrong with a friend who's not your bosom buddy. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 36

sad clown

One of these friends is not like the other, and it's starting to irritate. When should you be concerned about a friend who doesn't seem to take care about how she looks? Does it matter? Plus, the Ladies discuss their own mothers and the lessons learned (or not learned) about presentation, and Kristan's fixation on being Tim Gunn's best friend. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 37

cyber pals

Can you become close with someone you've never met? How do you transition from online pals to friends in real life? What if real life doesn't match up with your online image of a person? The Ladies discuss at length! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 38

communication breakdown

Your friend has completely misunderstood something you said, and things are not as they once were. How can you come back from that? Should you try? Is there a hidden message here? Plus, Kristan discusses the difficulty of listening to a friend's sad story whilst also being desperate for the ladies' room in #EmbarrassingPersonalProblems, and Joss (irritatingly) continues her year of grace, poise and elegance. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 39

be better

You've gone and done it, and you know it. Friends behaving badly, and in public no less. How can you come back from your less-than-finest moment(s)? The Ladies discuss sucking it up, the art of the apology, and reach back into Kristan's childhood for an Embarrassing Personal Problem. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 40

I'm not beyonce

Why does your friend always assume you're too busy for her? Why does she say things like, "I know you're better friends with Dolores (not her real name)...are you sure you want to hang out with little old me?" Is it insecurity or an attention grab? Plus, Joss discusses her gains in Grace, Poise and Elegance (#GPE2019). Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 41

you're out

of the will

The slippery slope of friendship when money is a part of it. Years and years of devotion can disintegrate, just like that, and leave you shocked and hurt. The Ladies also discuss the overuse of certain words, like toxic and trigger. Plus, Kristan's sainted mother provides another #EmbarrassingPersonalProblem, bless her. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 42

Where are

they now?

The Ladies hear back from some letter writers of episodes past with updates on their situations. Plus, a brave physical education teacher shares her #Embarrassing Personal Problem involving a condom and a missing, er…tool. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 43

the broken in me

What makes us seek out friends who are almost guaranteed to hurt us? Who have a track record of ghosting, dropping friends, bad behavior? Is it, as the letter writer suggests, "the broken in me seeing the broken in you"? The Ladies discuss how to share some of the more difficult times of your life without info-dumping too early in a friendship, and being able to identify as more than a survivor or victim. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 44

should i cut this bitch loose?

Such a direct question! The Ladies answer a young letter writer who sees red flags in a person but is also tied to them through a graduate program. How do you balance being a good classmate and also watch out that you don't get stuck in a toxic friendship? Plus, updates on Kristan's hideous leg, and some all-too-personal problems from Joss. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 45

frosted by

my friends

When your life circumstances change, shouldn't your friends stand with you through the tumult? They're not really judging you on a change in social status, are they? Could it be something else? The Ladies discuss patterns, support, compassion fatigue and Joss miraculously turns an Embarrassing Personal Problem into a moment of Grace, Poise and Elegance. As she does. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 46

Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word

We all screw up. The Ladies break down the elements of an apology and why it can change take a friendship on life support and make it happy and healthy once more. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 47

Drama Mama in Divorcelandia

What DOES one do when a friend can't stop bringing up her divorce years after the fact? When she cries if you mention your anniversary? When she brings all conversation back to her and her ex? A few brisk slaps? A gift certificate for counseling? The Ladies discuss compassion, compassion fatigue and when to take a friend aside for a little chat. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 48

Rapid Fire

the Second

Friend overreacting? Not invited to a wedding? The Ladies take on some of the more straightforward friend questions, and Kristan admits an embarrassing fact (Joss is shocked. Shocked, we tell you).Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 49

Eight Girls

and a Pizza

Learning to stand up for yourself in a firm, polite way is a life skill the Ladies WISH they'd learned in their twenties (or before). But it's not too late! Plus, what does one do with prechewed food? An #EmbarrassingPersonalProblem from a listener! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 50

No Friends,

No Drama and

Halle Berry

What if you're mostly happy without friends? How do you explain that to people who might make overtures? The Ladies get a unique letter from a listener who sounds happy in her solitude but is afraid she might be missing out.  Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 51

the office shrew

You're all friends at work…except for that one person who kills everyone's happy vibe and messes with productivity. What do you do? What should you ask your boss? Are you required to like someone just because you work together? How far is "nice" supposed to go? The Ladies discuss, and Kristan talks about self-care, even when it sucks and you feel embarrassed.  Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 52

the friendly ghosting

Is it ever okay to walk away from a friendship without a word? Two letters ask the same question: Can I be done with her yet? But the Ladies are intrigued! Is that what our letter writers really want? Plus, Joss's dog, the infamous and fabulous Glory, scratches her itchy spots whilst the Ladies drink cheap Chardonnay and ponder life's difficult questions. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 53

both side

of the coin

How do you stay friends with a couple after a divorce? What if you want to be friends with the new woman? Plus, hints for heaving dead groundhogs from your backyard, and how to stay cool in this weather! Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 54

The Flailing Friend

A glimpse into the mind of "that" friend whose rough patch lasts longer than she wants it to…and how she recognized the drain this put on her friendships. The Ladies weigh in on coping mechanisms for both sides when a friend is flailing. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 55

am i an unpaid therapist?

Your friend is lovely, intelligent and kind…and her life is in the toilet all the freakin' time. You, on the other hand, have your act pretty much together. How do you create balance and avoid being an unpaid therapist? How can you avoid every conversation circling back to her endless problems while still being there for her? The Ladies discuss, plus a horrifying Embarrassing Personal Problem Kristan finally has the courage to describe. Listen on AudioBoom and iTunes.

Episode 56

the psychic